Why Then Do Hearts Get Broken?

Why Then Do Hearts Get Broken?


I was speaking at a relationship program some time ago on this same topic, I started off by asking my audience to raise their hands if any one of them had been, is in or is about go into a relationship. To be honest, I really wasn't surprised when out of about fifty people, only three rose up their hands, in fact two-and-half (because the third person's hand was half raised). Then I told them the number one reason for heartbreaks is DISHONESTY. I gave them a second chance and repeated the question, and then amazingly, so many hands were raised! Why didn't the rest raise their hands the first time? Hmm...

It is so unfortunate that people get into relationships with loads of insincerity, why start of a relationship when you know you are not ready for one? You at least owe yourself the responsibility of speaking the truth to yourself! Yes, tell yourself to be patient, tell yourself to wait for the right time, tell yourself the truth, that even though you are so beautiful and drop dead handsome, you can’t afford to be in a relationship just yet! Tell yourself the truth and convince yourself that it’s the best thing for now, then you will be able to get your 'toaster' off your back and you will be able to keep yourself from chasing after 'intimate partners'.

Consider this, how can you say you love someone yet you know deep down that you are ashamed of introducing him or her as your boyfriend, girlfriend or fiancee? , dishonesty does not pity party alone; it drags lies and deceit everywhere it goes, if I am wrong then please take a minute off your forward course, go down memory lane and tell yourself the truth, how many of your previous relationships were based on honesty? And even when you kissed or punched yourselves goodbye, were you honest about the actual reason for the breakup? Dishonesty causes heartbreaks, it dampens one's spirit, it gradually takes away one's desire to love and be loved, and it kills the drive to make a relationship work! Get honest, stop being crafty just because you want to steal some unnecessary moments of pleasure and perhaps make some monetary gains and popularity that would either leave you or the second party broken and in some cases, get a third party involved in the whole wreck.

There are so many reasons for heartbreaks, but I decided to just dwell on DISHONESTY because relationships should be built on trust, and where there is deceit and lies, there will always be vacancy for trust, and if the foundation is faulty, there would be no stability in that relationship. I want to state at this point that, things can get better if only you set your mind to it. No matter how far you might have gone in the wrong direction, it still doesn’t make it the right way. Make a U-turn, iron things out, ask yourself what you really want in a relationship, then prepare your mind and equip yourself to fit into that picture and to become a propelling force to realizing that dream of a beautiful relationship, be a man and a woman of honor think before you step a foot forward and when you step, be sure it’s the right foot and if at any point you think you missed your step, tell your partner to hold on, go back to the drawing board, check were you must have gone wrong, evaluate that relationship again then move on, for so long as there is a will, there sure is a way!

As I sign out, I implore you to guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life! Ciao!

Julie B Okponung